My parents always asked us kids for a list of things we wanted for Christmas … when we were still kids, and when we’d grown up. It’s a habit I continued with my son, especially now that he’s grown, because I don’t see him every day—I don’t know what he wants. Why spend money on something that will never be used?
My husband thinks that’s too mercenary, but then he’s the guy who only gives cash. “They can get what they want,” that’s his motto. It works, though I sometimes find it a little boring. I enjoy the hunt for the perfect gift.
But I think that’s a gal thing. What’s a doting husband to do?
Sometimes, gentlemen, you draw a complete blank, yes? Sometimes … You Just Need a List. If you ask your wife for a list, though, you spoil the surprise.
The list that follows was making the rounds among my Facebook friends. I don’t know whom to credit; the version I read actually included the words: “I just read this somewhere.” So I offer it here, cleaned up and with a few edits.
The Doting Husband’s Gift Idea List: Gifts To Surprise Your Wife
• Gift certificate for a mani/pedi. Supersize it and give her four of them.
• Gift certificate for a professional massage.
• An empty house for 24–72 hours. No less, but longer would be cool.
• A planned weekend with her friends: fancy hotel, all plans pre-made, kids arranged, concert/play/movie/event tickets bought.
• A cleaning company to come and do even just one deep clean of the house. Those dust bunnies are not going anywhere without hired help.
• An upgrade to her engagement/wedding ring: a new wrap, added stones, whatever suits her.
• Concert tickets with backstage passes. Sitter booked. Hotel overnight a bonus.
• Get her car detailed.
• Facials/massages/hair appointments pre-booked and pre-paid for as many months as you can afford. Arrange the babysitter too.
• Gift cards for a girls’ night out. (Besties notified and booked!)
• A weekend, with you, in the big city. Plans made. Sitters booked.
• A local hotel room booked for her for a whole night (or two!)—alone. Preferably one with a spa.
• Don’t forget tradition. I have a friend whose husband, every year without fail, gets her the latest hardback edition of her favorite prolific author.
• Jewelry. Duh.
• Hack her Pinterest. Ideas galore.
• Ask her girlfriends.
• Don’t forget the deluxe wrapping.
There’s your list. A surprise is still the best thing, so don’t ask her for a list. Just do it.